For this blog, my topic is my support system, who they are, how they support me, and what would be the impact if they were gone.
My
family and friends are my support system…..my safety net…and my security
blanket. They are the ones I want to share good news with, and they are the
ones who hold me up when I can no longer hold myself up. They are the ones who
make my life worth living, the ones I cannot imagine living without.
My
husband, who is far from perfect, but who I know loves me, even though I am far
from perfect too. We may bicker, fight, and drive each other crazy at times, but
I know that he is always there for me.
My
kids, who are all young adults making their way in the world. They stand by
each other above all others. I look at them and know that no matter what, I got
something right.
My
family: my parents, my siblings, and the families they have created. We may not
always agree, but we always back each other up. I would do anything for them,
and I know they would do anything for me.
My
friends, who are always a phone call away and who would drop everything if I
needed them to (and usually just KNOW without me saying a word).
Part
of this assignment is to describe what our life would be like if our supports
were suddenly gone. Right now, I cannot possibly do that—it fills me with paralyzing
fear. I just came from the funeral home, where my husband is standing with the
honor guard for a fellow volunteer firefighter who died last weekend in an ATV
accident. This man and my husband have been friends since they were children,
and I have known him for decades. As I walked through the receiving line, I saw
the absolute devastation on the faces of his sister, his niece and nephew, and
the woman he was deeply in love with. To try and imagine myself without the
people I love in my life breaks my
heart.
Instead,
I will say this: tomorrow isn’t promised, so make the most of today. Tell the
ones you love that you love them. Call your mother. Hug your spouse. Play with
your kids. Order dessert. Do all the wonderful things you want to do. Don’t
wait for tomorrow. Please.
Kathy
Hi Kathy,
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for you and your husband's loss. You are absolutely right...be grateful for the little things and moments and live for today. It is so hard to live without support because "support" such a strong concept. It is something or someone that is a part of your life who hold you up/together when you cannot do it for yourself. They provide security, freedom, and rejuvenation. It is unimaginable to live without something or someone that is a part of who you are and the reason why you move forward. Again, I am sorry for you and your husband's loss.
Kathy,I am sorry to hear of your loss. As I can tell this man was like family to you all. I think we all have a great deal of support in our families. Our families are the ones that have been there since day one and that is something that I couldn't imagine being without as well. When we begin to go through trials and tribulations in our lives that's when we really recognize and appreciate our support systems more and more. This is a truly touching post.
ReplyDeleteKathy,
ReplyDeleteSorry for your loss! Thank you for sharing your post. The last part of your post stood out to me the most "tomorrow isn't promised". This is something that we do not think about all the time but it is so import to think this way. Five years ago I lost my grandfather suddenly to a stroke and one of the things I remember about that horrible time was that he had called me and left a message for me to call him and I remember being busy with school a newborn and I was getting ready to go on vacation and I thought about putting the call off but decided to call him while I walked to school. I never would have though that would be the last time I would speak to him so I can relate to this statement deeply.
Thank you for your kind words everyone. It was a difficult week, especially for my husband.
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